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I'm a mother of 2.  A girl who is 19 And my son who is 18.    So our daughter left the nest awhile ago  and then our son is leaving in about 3-6 months.   So I guess it's time for the parents to decide what's next on the agenda. I've been looking for a good paying steady job so I can now move into something smaller.   I'm not sure what lays ahead for me so I want to get something I can afford myself. It's time to start a new chapter in my life.  I need to start thinking about me and my happiness because everyone else is thinking about theirs..... I'm just looking to talk to somebody who can be honest,  straight  forward,  DOSE'NT LIE, will not betray my trust and who has a sense of humor.  I'm going to take it day to day and whatever is mentioned to be it will happen that way... Please understand I'm not looking for a relationship right now and after being in a relationship with my man for 36 years, a relationship is the farthest thing from my mind.  I hope you understand that I'm so hurt and trusting someone is going to take a lot of work on me.  I thought we are soulmates, cinca infinity × cinca infinity. So if you want to have great conversations and laugh, cry, and talk about whatever comes to our mind I'm so down with that.  Like I said we can take it day by day. Thank you, Karen  

I am here to just find a man or woman to have a intelligent conversation with.  I am not looking for any type of relationship.    I have been in a relationship with the same man for 36 years.  Yes, I still love him but he crushed my heart into pieces when I found text messagges from a girl who's in her 20s and they have been texting for about a year now.  He sends her money and he tells her he loves her.   He chats with her I'm sure every night and we don't have any intimatecy.  I'm sure some of the reason is her, some of the reason is me and the rest is him.    So as you can see I've been lied to straight to my face, emotionally messed up, and definitely backstabbing.  The one person who I thought could never hurt me the way he is did....   I'm not saying it was all him we have been having issues for awhile  and I pushed him away but I didn't go out and start setting someone, falling in love with them and giving up on us who have been together for 36 years, never once broke up and had 2 beautiful kids together.    I love him but I can't continue to fight for our relationship if we can't be intimate or have trust or communication.    It hurts so bad what he's doing to me that I literally get sick to my stomach thinking about the whole situation .  I don't want to give up on 36 years  but I also can't keep going on like this feeling I come second now.  He chats with her every night I assume, so where and how to I draw the line and start to let go.   I'm in such a horrific denial.   How do I just give up on 36 years?   But then it's not worth feeling so sick to my stomach Daily like I'm getting punched in the gut replaying that day over and over in my head.  HOW DO YOU LET GO OF THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE?  36 years.....